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Attachment-focused EMDR therapy in Hayes Valley, San Francisco, and virtually throughout California.

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I am a licensed psychotherapist and attachment-focused EMDR therapist specializing in trauma, anxiety, complex PTSD, and relational healing.

Many of the people I work with appear capable on the outside while privately struggling with emotional overwhelm, self-criticism, relationship patterns, or a persistent sense of disconnection from themselves.

My approach is grounded, reflective, and deeply attuned, helping clients move toward greater emotional regulation, self-trust, and connection in their daily lives and relationships.

I offer in-person EMDR therapy near Hayes Valley, San Francisco, and virtual therapy throughout California.

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​Therapy Approach

Therapy is collaborative, paced thoughtfully, and grounded in attachment-focused EMDR and nervous system regulation.

I work with adults experiencing trauma, anxiety, emotional overwhelm, relationship difficulties, burnout, and long-standing emotional patterns that may feel difficult to shift through insight alone.

Together, we create a space that supports emotional safety, deeper self-understanding, and meaningful change over time.

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EMDR Therapy

EMDR therapy helps the nervous system process unresolved experiences so they feel less emotionally activating in the present.

Many people seek EMDR for trauma, anxiety, relationship wounds, emotional overwhelm, burnout, addictions, or patterns that continue repeating despite insight and self-awareness.

My approach integrates attachment-focused EMDR with careful pacing and relational safety, allowing the work to feel grounded and manageable rather than overwhelming.

Sessions may include bilateral stimulation using handheld pulsars or auditory tones to support processing and integration.

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For more information about EMDR, visit the EMDR International Association (EMDRIA).  emdria.site-ym.com

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Areas of Focus

• Attachment-focused EMDR therapy                                                     

• Emotional overwhelm, burnout, and high-functioning trauma

• Addiction and compulsive coping patterns

• Complex PTSD (C-PTSD)     

• Trauma, anxiety, and nervous system overwhelm            

• Childhood and developmental trauma

• Relationship and attachment wounds

• Internalized shame and self-critical patterns    

• Recovery from emotional neglect                                                

Many of the clients I work with have spent years appearing capable on the outside while privately struggling with emotional overwhelm, relationship patterns, anxiety, or a persistent sense of disconnection from themselves.

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Fees & Scheduling

50-minute session: $210
75-minute session: $275

Out-of-network superbills are available upon request.

Sessions are offered Monday through Friday in person near Hayes Valley, San Francisco, and virtually throughout California.

I offer a brief consultation call for those interested in exploring whether working together feels like a good fit.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Do you offer EMDR therapy in Hayes Valley, San Francisco?

Yes. I provide in-person EMDR therapy near Hayes Valley, San Francisco, as well as virtual EMDR therapy for adults throughout California.

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What is attachment-focused EMDR therapy?

Attachment-focused EMDR integrates standard EMDR with attention to early attachment experiences, relational safety, and nervous system regulation. Attachment-focused Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing therapy is especially helpful for developmental trauma and complex PTSD. AF-EMDR developed by Laurel Parnell, PH.D.  https://parnellemdr.com/

 

​Can EMDR help with anxiety and relationship issues?

Yes. EMDR can support trauma-related anxiety, attachment insecurity, emotional overwhelm, and relationship patterns rooted in earlier experiences.

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​Do you offer virtual EMDR therapy in the state of California?

Yes. I offer online EMDR therapy to adults throughout California.

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Do you accept insurance?
I am a private-pay provider and offer out-of-network invoices/superbills upon request.

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Learn More & Credentials

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You can visit my profile on Psychology Today or view my EMDRIA certification here:

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EMDR certification badge:
https://credentials.emdria.org/7f339b7b-c44d-4619-93a5-58d355f2675f

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​Certified Attachment Focused EMDR therapist

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Visit my page on Psychology Today-

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/230989

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Visit the Parnell Institute-  https://parnellemdr.com/

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https://parnellemdr.com/directory/?_search=Xanthe&_type=member

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Xanthe Asher, MA, LMFT #104741Attachment-Focused EMDR Therapist San Francisco & California

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